How do Men and Women Communicate?

Between Man and Woman

Is there a common language ?

There is a metaphor which says that Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Is it true? This means that they speak different languages and the communication between the two is not likely to be clear. Very often, when a woman speaks, the man interprets differently the meaning of what she really wants to say. This creates quarrels and misunderstandings. To understand better these differences in communication, here are some examples for some common daily situations between couples.

She says: "We never go out."

He hears: "You don't do your duty towards me, I am very

disappointed, I am so borred with you."
So he answers: "This is not true, we went out last week."
But she meant: "I wish to go out, I would like that we make something together."

She says : "No one cares about me."
He hears: "I am unhappy, you never pay me any attention that I need, shame on you."
So he answers: "I am sure that there are some who care about you."
But she meant: "Today, I feel ignored and abandoned. I am disappointed that you were so busy last days. I know you are busy but sometimes I wonder if you still need me."

She says: "I am so tired that I can't do anything anymore."
He hears: "It's I who do everything here and you never do anything. You should help me, I can't do everything alone. I was wrong to choose you."
So he answers: "This is ridiculous, you are not disabled, are you?"
But she meant: "I need to have some rest before I can do another thing. Will you say to me that my work is good and that I deserve to have some rest?"

She says: "You don't love me anymore."
He hears: "You are selfish and careless, I give you everything and you don't give me back anything. I was fool to love you.".
So he answers: "Of course I love you, the proof is that I am here."
But she meant: "I know, inside me that you love me, but I am suffering from a feeling of insecurity. I would like that you reassure me about your love and that you talk to me about that love."

She says: "I wish that you were more romantic."
He hears: "I want more love, I am no more attracted by you because you are not the lover I dream of. I wish that you were like the other romantic men."
So he answers: "You don't find me romantic?"
But she meant: "I would like to have more time for both of us together alone. You know how to be romantic, but I would like that you surprise me with some flowers."

She says : "I am sick of everything."
He hears: "I have to do many things that I don't like to do. You disappoint me. I wish I had a better partner able to make my life more satisfactory. You do your duty so bad."
So he answers: "If you don't like your work anymore, then change it!"
But she meant: "I love my work and my life, but today, I would like to breathe a bit. Will you ask me what's wrong and listen to me? This will help me to relax."

She says : " Nothing works."
He hears: " You never do anything good. I can't trust you. Another man would know how to do things, but you only complicate things even more."
So he answers: "It's my fault I suppose ?"

But she meant: "I am tired today, and fortunately I can share my feelings with you, this helps me so much."

She says: "Nobody listens to me."
He hears: "I listen to what you say, but you never listen to me. You became annoying. You are but a selfish."
So he answers: " Look, I do listen to you !"
But she meant: "I am afraid to annoy you, but I would like to have some of your special attention. I would like that you ask me questions like "What happened ?, "How did you feel ?", etc. I need your support."

According to John Gray

This is an example of one side of differences between men and women, as if they were really from different planets.

To be continued ..