How to Deal with a Stressed Man
Ladies, do you recognize the symptoms of a stressed man without feeling concerned? It is not easy. A man shows three main symptoms of stress that women often interpret negatively and resent: remoteness, bad temper and refolding. Women, ignoring these symptoms, tend to feel involved and exaggerate their suffering. Certainly, if women are able to interpret these symptoms correctly and understand them, they will relax and know how to help their partner find his balance.
First symptom: Remoteness
In a stress situation, the first instinct of a man is to take distance and stop communication. Of course, the woman feels that his attitude is against her. She imagines that he no longer loves her. This is normal because in the eyes of a woman, this attitude reflects indifference or resentment. For a woman, the opposite happens: the more she is under pressure, the more she becomes concerned about the well-being of those she loves. If a stressed man is not conscious of his own suffering, he becomes deaf to the others and minimizes the problems of his entourage. He hinders his emotions; he rejects any attempt to help or dialogue and pretends that everything is fine.
A woman needs to know that a distant man is a man who struggles against his emotions.
Second symptom: Bad Temper
A worried man devotes all his energy to achieve the stated goal. If he is interrupted for another reason, he has the greatest difficulty in changing his plan. It is easier for a woman to shift her focus from one subject to another. A man, however, cannot but concentrate on one task at a time. If one disturbs his concentration, he protests. A woman will think he is abusing her patience.
Under the effect of stress, a man loses interest in everything and shows a bad mood.
Third symptom: Refolding
At the highest tension, the stressed man withdraws into himself and shows utter indifference. This is one more mystery to the woman: when she closes to herself, it's because she has decided to do so. She believes that he escapes from her deliberately for some obscure reason for revenge. In fact, this refolding is a defense mechanism that is set up when the man feels flush with painful feelings. While his wife sees a pure and simple rejection, the man just needs to be alone to solve his problem.
Don't even try to help him; just accept and respect his solitude.
Faced to the bad temper of a man, a woman is afraid to ask. In order to ensure his help, she must learn to ask. If she does not ask, she will obtain nothing. Once a demand is made, she must remain silent without trying to justify herself. The silence is conducive to reflection.
Ladies, to cure a man from his stress, nothing is like a little love and tolerance.
To be followed ..
According to John Gray
