What to do with a Stressed Woman !
Sirs, are you able to recognise the symptoms of a stressed woman without feeling concerned? Women under stress tend to mix their feelings with those of others' and lose their balance. They feel completely torn. Men interpret personally these symptoms and believe that they are unable to help them, which is a good reason to withdraw from the scene. Here are three symptoms of a stressed woman; try to understand them:
First symptom: overwhelming
Stress intensifies the feminine sensibility. Faced to an unusual influx of emotions, a woman can no longer distinguish between her feelings and those of others and feels obliged to meet the expectations of everyone. She feels so overwhelmed and unable to find rest until everything is done. The more she forgets her needs in favour of those of others, the more she is overloaded. She continues to give and give without ever taking the time to receive. She ends up by blindly submitting to the desires of others, till exhaustion. She becomes unable to prioritise.
When a woman complains of being overwhelmed, she is simply trying to share her feelings. It will be enough to listen to her! Her husband takes distance to escape the feeling of guilt she sends back to him. He feels he disappoints her but does not know how to express it without losing face. He doesn't tell her that he wants her happiness, that he hates to see her sad, etc.., and does not even imagine that she would like to hear this. From her side, the woman becomes sure that he does not love her because his external behaviour suggests that he doesn't care and that everything is going well. The result: she feels even more alone.
A man should know that a stressed woman needs an attentive ear from her husband and not having solutions.
Second symptom: dramatising
A woman burdened always tends to dramatise. After a stressful day, a woman is able to relate all her worries and aggression on her husband as if he were the cause of all her worries. If he lets her discuss the rest of her concerns, she can generally relax. In this state, it is easy to go about unfair hurts and forget them. The man reacts similarly to stress: he is irritated easily, but if not provoked, his bad mood will go as fast as it came. A man must be able to listen without interrupting or correcting his partner's remarks.
Under the effect of stress, a woman can only restore her balance by means of speech. If her partner shows her support and understanding, it will be enough for her to stop dramatising.
Third symptom: collapsing
By accumulating tension, a woman can easily collapse abruptly. This reaction is a cry for help, but a man interprets it automatically that he failed and cannot do anything for her. He does not see that her depletion results from an imbalance and he has nothing to do with it. This excessive fatigue is the female equivalent of male folding. The more the pressure increases in a woman, the less she thinks of herself. So she needs a helping hand.
Don't even try to give her advises or to blame her, but just listen to her and support her well.
To restore balance, a woman must first examine her feelings. If she fails to unravel them, a growing imbalance is reflected by the symptoms mentioned above.
Sirs, in order to cure a woman from her stress, try to understand and recognise these symptoms. All a woman needs is an attentive ear and a strong support.
According to John Gray
